When we’re little, every adult in our lives tells us that sharing is a good thing, putting others before ourselves is the right way to live life and being selfish is bad for everyone. And their not all wrong. Ideally, we want to live our lives as kindly, compassionately and selflessly as possible because that’s how we want humanity to be.
But every once in a while, it’s okay to be selfish. And if we are, lighting won’t strike us down.
Now, I’m not saying that we should start ignoring the needs of others and become so self-involved that we forget about all the ways selflessness can help those around us. But sometimes it just feels good to do what we want, when and how we want without the idea that someone somewhere is going to get offended. And it can be healthy too.
Sometimes it’s the little things that we want to be selfish about, like not changing the radio station in our car when the person riding with us hates the song or taking the last roll at dinner. But we can also be selfish about big things, like following our own dreams despite what the crowd has to say.
So if we want to study classical music in college and our parents tells us it’s impractical and to go for business, we should study music! And if we want to take an epic cross-country road trip by ourselves, we should just go hop in the car and drive. And if we want to listen to the same song a hundred times because it’s our favorite, then we should put it on repeat and turn it up loud.
Because really, life is supposed to be all about being happy. And if doing what we want and being selfish sometimes is what makes us happy, then we should embrace that feeling. As long as it’s not hurting someone else or harming ourselves, then there’s nothing wrong. And instead of being haunted by the “what ifs” and “could-have-beens” of life, we can revel in the fact that we’re simply enjoying the short amount of time we actually have in life.
We have to look at it like this: we can either be happy or we can be haunted. It’s all up to us.