There’s no denying that the holidays are supposed to be some of the happiest times of the year. The lights, music and all around “cheer” are supposed to fill your heart with nothing but joy. The tricky thing is, that joy can sometimes be replaced with dread if you’re preparing to spend the holiday alone, or rather, single. Luckily, being single has advantages, many of which translate right into the holiday season. This year, I challenge you to catch yourself under the mistletoe. You may even realize you’re actually the perfect date to your own holiday party. What follows is a Singles Holiday Guide to surviving the holiday blues.
You’re not really single…
…because you’re dating yourself. Sound strange? It isn’t. There’s no one better than you. No one knows you better than you. And in reality, there’s no one else you could spend more time with than you. So, why not date yourself this holiday season. Go on the kind of adventure you imagine yourself going on with a significant other. You know those cute scenes in holiday movies, where the couple goes ice-skating together and fumbles into each other’s arms with a loving gaze? That’s never really how it actually happens anyway. Try out a winter sport you’ve never tried before. Maybe treat yourself to breakfast in bed while watching your favorite holiday movie. You don’t need a partner to enjoy the perks of the holiday season. Just go on an adventure!
Buy yourself a gift.
Why wait for someone else to give you that gift of which you’ve been dreaming? Make a small list of the things you desire most this year (preferably things that won’t break your bank) and choose one or two of the items to gift yourself. Wrap them up as you would for a friend and place them under the tree. It might seem like a strange act, but honestly, you deserve the love. And since when does love have to come from someone else? Love yourself. Treat yourself. Happy holidays to you.
I shouldn’t need to remind you of this, because chances are you already know what I’m about to say. The holiday season isn’t just about getting gifts; it’s also about the giving. Take time out of your busy life to give back to those in need in your community. No act of kindness is too small, and I promise you that no gift is better than reaching out to those who need love and support the most. Whether you donate to your favorite charity or go out and volunteer at a local food shelter, there are countless ways to pay it forward this holiday season. Who has time to worry about being single when you’re busy trying to save the world? Am I right?
Appreciate your circle.
Being single during the holidays can sting a little more than usual. But that is not a good reason to stop appreciating all the wonderful people that are in your life today, and how lucky you are to be spending another holiday in their company. Make sure you let your loved ones know how much you appreciate them. Go out of your way to do something kind for them, outside of giving material gifts and spending money to show love. Your never too old to make a hand crafted card or to bake homemade cookies with grandma. Go back to your roots this holiday season. I have a good feeling you won’t regret it.
Time is money. Love is limitless. Give without expectation. Being single is not a curse.