I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. You don’t have to rely on, dote on or wait on anyone else. Nobody is holding you back; the world is your oyster! As great as all of this may seem, being a single girl in a coupled world can still be a struggle. Make things a little easier on your single friends, folks, and try to stop spewing these 10 lines at them.
- “Have you met anyone?”
This one should be obvious to most people, but clearly some are missing the memo: If I’ve met someone, I probably would have mentioned it, and if I haven’t, I probably don’t want to explain why that’s the case.
- “But you’re so pretty, I don’t get it!”
Okay, compliment aside, this is a total diss in a few ways. For one, you’re putting the blame on me; it’s kind of like saying, “You’re good looking, so you must be doing something else wrong to still be single, right?” No. Plus, I think we probably all know by now that looks are not everything, and no relationship can be sustained entirely off of physical attraction.
- “You don’t need anyone.”
Yeah, I’m aware that I don’t need anyone. In fact, I’ve lived most of my life quite contently all on my own. This doesn’t mean I don’t want a relationship at some point. These are two very distinct things.
- “Are you putting yourself out there?”
Obviously if I’m looking, I’m putting myself out there in one way or another. Which leads to my next no-no…
- “You should join a club or take a class!”
Listen, if I wanted to join a book club, I would have already, and I’m not going to sit through an hour-long sketch class in hopes of meeting a man. Now please stop telling me where to meet people?
- “Being single is way better, anyway.”
Really? Then why are you married? That’s what I thought.
- “Have you considered online dating?”
Gee, thanks! I hadn’t thought that up on my own yet.
- “You’re too picky.”
Ouch! Just because you don’t think I deserve the best of the best doesn’t mean I don’t.
- “Want me to set you up with one of my boyfriend’s friends?”
This may sound like a good idea in theory, but I think I’ll pass. Not only do I probably already know all of your boyfriend’s friends, but he isn’t exactly my type. No offense.
- “You’ll meet someone when the time is right.”
Thank you for the sage advice, dear friend, but we both know you have no better idea when (or if) I’ll meet someone than I do, and you offering up some generic encouragement isn’t exactly making the situation any better.
Don’t beat yourself up if you’ve made any of these comments to your single friends. Everyone has done it at least once, and more likely than not, the person you said it to didn’t get too offended. However, try and steer clear of saying such things from here on out!