For most girls, there comes a point somewhere on the timeline consisting of loose teeth, training bras, first crushes, high school drama, going away to college, finding our first jobs and everything else in between, where we realize our moms aren’t just our moms, but our friends as well. For me, that came one particular fall afternoon when I was 11 and my mom was driving me to piano practice. We were laughing and singing along to the radio and it struck me how insanely cool it was this lady who I got to call “Mom.” It was like a switch went off knowing that while she was my mom first, she was also my friend. Moms are pretty selfless people with a lot of give and very little take. We should all be appreciative of all the big and little things they do for us (let’s face it, a lot of us would be malfunctioning hot messes if it weren’t for our moms), but we also shouldn’t forget to recognize our moms not just for that title alone, but for the incredible people they are – the types of people we would be lucky to call our friends. In honor of moms everywhere, here are ten reasons why you’ll always be able to call your mom one of your best friends.
They know you better than anyone else
Let’s face fact, our moms have seen it all. They know your every mood, every expression, what foods you like, what foods you don’t, what word made you giggle the most when you were little, your shoe size (and probably your bra size), and the list goes on and on and on. Moms are OBSESSED with their babies, it’s just natural. And I’m pretty sure the obsession doesn’t go away as you get older. So instead of finding it unsettling, be happy that there is literally someone who can read you like an open book. On those days where there’s something wrong and you keep telling people there’s nothing wrong, you can guarantee the first words out of your mom’s mouth when she sees you or talks to you will be “What’s wrong?” Your closest friends still might not know what your tells are, but she will. Mom’s intuition knows best.
They love you, no questions asked
A mother’s love is unconditional. It’s probably one of the best gifts we’ll ever be given in this life. We don’t have to earn it; it encompasses us the minute we are born onto this earth. In my 21st birthday card, my mom wrote “21 years ago I learned what unconditional love is.” And while I’m pretty great, I know for a fact that many of my friends have heard the same thing. I’ve seen it written on their Facebook walls, heard it in toasts and read it in their own birthday cards they’ve left out for all to see. Our friends will like us, even love us, but never quite in the same way our moms do.
They’ll always pick up the phone (always)
It’s a rare moment when your mom will screen your call. We’re all guilty of doing this. Don’t shake your head, you’ve done it. Hey, our moms have probably done it to their friends. But not to their kids. And if they for real miss your call, they’ll be scrambling to call you back. Part of this is probably chalked up to what my mom tells me is the constant fear something has happened to one of us. However another part is that our moms really do enjoy talking to us and are always ready and willing to catch up.
They’re able to embarrass you and you won’t even be able to stay mad
If a good friend goes out of their way to embarrass you, chances are a grudge will be held and a “how dare she?!” conversation will be held with another friend (or your mom). If your mom does it, you’ll probably wind up laughing along with her. Because she’s entitled. She gave BIRTH to you, she can poke a little fun at her own creation.
They’ll always be honest with you
While sometimes our moms may tell us things we don’t want to hear, they really do usually have our best interest in mind. It can be hard to remember in the moment, but there will come that point in time where you’ll find yourself saying “you were right.” A friend might be afraid to tell you that the sequin top you just had to buy makes you look like a disco ball, but your mom will tell you straight up.
They’re the first person ready to be your cheerleader
Nothing seems to make our moms happier than when we’re doing well. Our success is their success. It’s like they’re thinking, “That thing came out of me! And look at the great things they’re doing and the person they’ve become!” They love to cheer us on when we’re doing well and when we need the extra boost. Moms guarantee that there’s always someone in your corner.
No filter is required with your relationship
A test of any good friendship is that you feel totally comfortable being yourself. But there are some things you don’t even let your nearest and dearest friends see. Your mom, though? A whole different story. Your dorkiest, most annoying, ridiculous, and straight up scary traits are often still on full display for your mom, because she won’t care or judge you. Okay, she might judge you a little bit. But let’s circle back to the whole “unconditional love” thing. Mom, you still have to love me even if you’ve walked in on me performing solo performances of Chicago in the bathroom when I’m supposed to be showering. Better yet, thanks for still loving me and even playing the Roxy to my Velma.
They always have the best advice
Our moms have the age advantage over our other friends. Every stage of life you’re hitting, chances are they’ve been there too. They know how to navigate all that nitty, gritty stuff. They seem to know which crushes are gems or duds. They know how to resolve conflicts in friendships, the best way to get stains out of your whites and they have a whole box of recipes they’re ready to toss your way. Chances are if we listened to them more, we’d have an easier time navigating ourselves.
Your relationship ages like fine wine
I don’t know about you, but my mom, sister and I are having a hell of a lot more fun together the older we get. The whole mother/daughter line has seemed to blur a lot (I know because people regularly confuse our mom for one of our sisters), the conversation topics have broadened, the memories and shared laughter is endless, and a day out together is a much anticipated event. There’s so much to look forward to; future holidays and weddings. And I’m sure it will only get better once grandbabies are added to the mix (do give us some time, Mom).
They’re a constant source of inspiration
I remember being a little girl and thinking my mom was just the most amazing person in the world. I’m 23 now, and my thoughts haven’t changed. As I get older, I realize how important it is to surround yourself with the types of people you yourself would like to be. I think the same goes for a lot of girls out there, and I think at the top of that list is “Mom.” I’m inspired by my mom on a daily basis, by her selfless acts, the smiles she puts on the faces of the people around her, how she manages to find humor in nearly every situation, her patience, the way she has somehow managed to turn a house into an inanimate object that completely captures her warmth and light, and a thousand other reasons. All of our mothers have characteristics that we love and that inspire us. Calling that type of presence your best friend will only bring wonderful things into your life.
What it comes down to is that this is only a short list of the reasons why moms will be one of the best friends their children can ask for. Life is chock full of incredible relationships, but one of the most important starts before you’ve even been born. It may take some people some time to get there; they may see their mom as more of a Beverly Goldberg before she’s a Lorelai Gilmore. But with time, most people will come to find how wonderful a friendship with their mother is. At the end of the day, whether you realize it or not, your mom will always be your best friend.
In honor of Mother’s Day, some of our writers have shared images with their moms and personal messages below!