How to Deal With an Unwanted Office Flirtation

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Everyone deals with unwanted flirtation here and there. Some guy cat calls you in the street, and you yell something (probably mildly profane) back at him. Obviously not pleasant, but also not the end of the world. But when it happens in a work environment, it’s a totally different story. You’re probably seeing this person every day, and you don’t want to risk creating an even more uncomfortable environment for yourself. There’s no doubt that it’s a delicate situation.

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Confessions of a High Maintenance Person

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I went to college at a school that had the most low-maintenance people. Like very low-maintenance. Like showing up to class required nothing more than a pair of sweats and a headband for most, and weekend going out attire consisted of flannels and maybe one coat of mascara. Sure, I could roll with the low-key vibes and pretend I didn’t miss spending a full hour playing with makeup on a Friday night, but I did. So, please enjoy the confessions of a high-maintenance person coming from yours truly.

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How to Slow Down a Relationship That’s Moving Too Fast

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When you meet someone that seems to be everything you’ve ever dreamed of and more, it can be hard not to fall head over heels. Hold off on your “future wedding” board on Pinterest, though. The phrase “good things come to those who wait” is especially true in a relationship; if you feel like things are moving too fast, they probably are. Take these steps to slow things down and avoid ruining a relationship that could have great potential. Continue reading

‘Game of Thrones’ Deaths Ranked from Most Upsetting to Most Satisfying

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(Image Credit: HBO)

Game of Thrones loves nothing more than killing off its characters. There have been literally too many slaughters to count. However, no matter how numb you might have become to a bloody battle scene, there are always some characters’ deaths that really hit you hard. Here is our rating of Game of Thrones deaths from most upsetting to most celebration-worthy.

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The 5 Stages of a Netflix Binge

The 5 Stages of a Netflix Binge

We’ve all found ourselves lost in the downwards spiral of a Netflix binge. It’s an inescapable cycle that, regardless of how strongly you feel you need to get out, you continue to get sucked in by the characters you’ve suddenly grown to know so well. But, where does this addiction begin? Continue reading

7 Pinterest Hacks That Aren’t Worth It

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There are some truly great Pinterest hacks out there. Where else would I go to figure out how to maximize my storage space or fix a broken bronzer? Along with the life-saving hacks out there, though, are the not-so-useful ones that seriously make me question the logic of people sharing their advice. To avoid trying out a hack that might do more damage than good, check out the below list.

 

Use cotton to lengthen eyelashes.

If you’ve ever gotten one of those irritating little strands of cotton in your eye, you’ll know that the absolute last thing you should be coating your eyelashes with is cotton. For the sake of your eyeballs, buy yourself a lengthening mascara and some false lashes and leave it at that.

 

Break off clips from the ends of hangers to use as bag clips.

I guess if you are really desperate for a clip to hold your chips together (is anyone ever though?), you could break off the clips on the ends of your hanger to use, but who really thought that this was efficient? Save your clip hangers for hanging your pants – it will be way cheaper and easier to just get a bag of clips intended for your food.

 

Mix cocoa powder with lotion for an instant fake tan.

I actually tried this one, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that it’s not worth your time. I ended up with completely uneven streaks all over my body and a ruined container of lotion. This might work out ok if you spend hours mixing the lotion and blending into your skin, but you’re definitely better off with using something actually intended for fake tanning.

 

Make grilled cheese in the toaster by turning the toaster on its side.

Yeah, sure, if you want burnt cheese all over the sides of your toaster, go ahead and melt away. There are so many more efficient ways of melting cheese on toast that won’t end up with a mini fire, though, so maybe pass on this one.

 

Put a lighter to your eyelash curler before using for a longer-lasting curl.

Please do not try this at home. When I first heard someone suggest aiming your hair dryer at your eyelash curler before use to heat it up, the thought of hot metal near my eyes got me nervous, but actually bringing a flame to the curler for the sake of beauty? Not worth it.

 

Contour your face with utensils.

Why is this necessary? Aren’t there flat-edged brushes on the market made for this exact purpose? And why does a line so sharp it needs to be stenciled out with metal need to be drawn onto your face in the first place? Your utensils should stay in your kitchen, not in your makeup bag.

 

Create marble nails in water.

This is a nice idea in theory, but I can’t imagine this would end up with anything other than strangely mixed nail polish colors all over my hands… and probably furniture. I’ll leave the designs to the pros.

 

It’s definitely tempting to test out every Pinterest hack you come across, but please try to Pin wisely, and let us know what hacks you’ve come across that nobody should try!

‘Plus Size’ Celebs and the Obsession with Labeling Body Types

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(Image Credit: Bravo Media, LLC)

Everywhere we turn, women’s bodies are being judged. Everyone is either “too skinny” or “obese,” and figures on both ends of the spectrum are “unhealthy.” This judgmental behavior has become so popular that people seem to feel the need to put a label on all shapes and sizes.

Earlier this year, Glamour magazine put out a special issue in conjunction with Lane Bryant focusing on plus-size women. The beautiful Ashley Graham graced the cover, and women such as Melissa McCarthy, Adele, and Amy Schumer were featured.

As a woman who fluctuates from sizes 6 to 8, Amy wasn’t pleased that she was featured in this particular issue. She shared a post on her Instagram page letting her fans know that she doesn’t want “[y]oung girls seeing [her] body type and thinking that [it] is plus-size.” Because if a size 6 is overweight, then what is acceptable?

Friend to the comedian, Jennifer Lawrence, spoke out in light of the controversy in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar. She said that she doesn’t like that people consider her body type to be normal; she puts way too much work into her body for it to be normal, but we’re so accustomed to seeing underweight women that we think it’s the norm. This, in turn, makes us think of a normal body type as being a curvy but thin one.

Why are we so focused on judging other women? Social media makes it far too easy to do this publicly (and anonymously). If you go to any woman’s Instagram page with a large number of followers, you’re bound to see negative comments strewn about regarding her weight.

When did this become acceptable?

Another famous actress who has made it clear that she doesn’t want the focus to be on the size or shape of her body (ironically also featured in the Glamour plus-size issue) is Christina Hendricks. In an interview with the Sun-Herald, Christina’s “full-figured” body is referenced not once, but twice, and she is clearly displeased by the comment both times. Why would any highly-regarded actress want to be interviewed not about her incredible talents or current roles, but instead about her figure? Why does size matter to us so much?

In this era of body scrutiny, the lingerie company Aerie has tried to make a stand. They’ve stopped using standard “models” for their ads, and instead opt to use “real” girls. This means there are sizes being featured above a 4, stretch marks make appearances, and no airbrushing is done.

Until the real normal becomes the media’s definition of normal, it doesn’t seem girls will accept each other’s bodies or their own as being beautiful. We need to stop acting like the Kardashian waist-to-butt ratio is attainable (or like it’s anything that anyone should aim for) and start encouraging each other’s healthy, natural figures. More companies and influential media outlets need to stop allowing women to be placed into “skinny” and “fat” classifications and encourage all women to be proud of how they look, regardless of their weight.

How to Make New Friends as an Adult

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For a large portion of most people’s lives, making friends comes easily. As a child, your parents can set up play dates with your peers; when you get to be a bit older, you can explore friendships and social circles on your own in school to see where you fit in; and in college, you probably have a roommate or two that act as automatic friends, at least until you meet others. After this point, though, forming new friendships doesn’t always come easily. Unfortunately, many people already feel secure in their social circles and don’t necessarily go out of their way to meet new friends, making it difficult for the ones that do. However, there are also a ton of adults out there who are in the same boat and are eager to form new friendships; you just have to find them! Continue reading

Celebrity Crush: Tom Hardy

The world has gone Tom Hardy crazy, and I am no exception. Over the past few years, he has started sneaking his way into just about every popular movie. He was in two of the eight movies up for Best Picture at the Oscars, and was nominated for best actor in a supporting role, thanks to his outstanding performance in The Revenant.

Why is Tom Hardy so popular, you ask? The most obvious answer is that his acting skills are impeccable. He can play any role and completely knock it out of the park. Unstable twins (yes, two of him) taking over the London crime scene? No problem. A lying, vicious, self-centered wild man making his way through blizzards in the uncharted wilderness? Easy. A Boston bartender who turns out to be a murderer but still convinces you to have a soft spot for him in the end? He can do that, too (or maybe that was just me).

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There’s also no denying the charm of his British accent, and the looks certainly don’t hurt. He can pull off a clean cut look better than most guys out there, but can rock a beard even better. The tattoos are just an added bonus.

 

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Did you know that he’s also a dedicated husband and father? It doesn’t get much better than Tom in all his glory holding his mini-me… except for him holding puppies. That comes pretty close.

 

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If you somehow don’t have a major crush on Tom Hardy already, do yourself a favor and watch every movie that he’s ever been in. You’ll thank me later.

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How to Pretend You Haven’t Googled Someone Before a Date

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(Image Credit: pathdoc)

There’s a lot that can be said about the ability to Google someone before a date. If you’ve met them online or through a dating app, this can be the best way to make sure they are who they say they are. Safety aside, it can be hard to not search out of blatant curiosity. “Do we have a lot in common? What does he do for a living? Do his friends look like people I could get along with?” All valid questions! We’ve probably all done it at some point. Not a big deal, but in an attempt to not to come off too creepy, follow this advice to make your date feel as natural as possible.

 

Keep your lips sealed

So you’ve looked him up and you hit the Google jackpot: you found it all. You know what sports he played in school, saw pictures circa 2009, what he wore to his sister’s wedding, and what kind of person his ex seems to be. All interesting, but definitely not worth sharing with him. If anything you already know comes up in conversation, do yourself a favor and act like it’s the first time you’re hearing about it. Don’t be like me and tell him that your mom watched his high school graduation speech and definitely approves.

 

Ask lots of questions

Again, pretend it’s all a mystery to you. Ask anything that comes to mind or maybe already came to mind and you already know the answer to thanks to your internet stalking spree. It doesn’t matter either way. If you don’t ask, you’ll come across as uninterested. If you do, he’ll definitely be impressed with how engaging you are. Plus, if you already have some idea of what he’s into, you can ask questions that you think will probably spark an interesting conversation. Just don’t be obvious about it.

 

Act normal

Do everything in your power to not be awkward when he brings up something you found out on your own. Maybe even practice your poker face before you two meet up. The last thing you want to do is ruin your date because he sees your uncomfortable reactions and has no idea why you’re wincing at the mention of his childhood friend Alex. Just smile and nod and change the subject if you really must.

 

If you must do some pre-date sleuthing, then go for it ⎼ just don’t let it blow up in your face. Besides sharing with your best friend, of course, keep that knowledge inside for the time being. Maybe if all goes well you can even own up to it one day.

TDQ’s Guide to Easy Spring Cleaning

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(Image Credit: Konstantin Yuganov)

It’s almost time to put away your long underwear, ladies and gents. In just a few short weeks, spring will have sprung! Bring in the warm weather the right way and give yourself a fresh start to the new season by doing some spring cleaning. Trust me, I know, cleaning is just not all that fun. Your clothes are strewn in an organized mess and you’ve gotten used to that stack of magazines next to your bed, right? As much as you might like to tell yourself that, just trust me that it will feel amazing to have a squeaky clean place once that sunshine is peeking through your windows and catching every little dust particle in sight. Here’s your guide to spring cleaning the easy way!

 

Step 1: Tackle the clutter

It’s way too hard to actually get things clean when surfaces are covered with all your stuff. First things first, pick up whatever is in your way. Put away all those clothes, organize your jewelry, and clean off every countertop so that you can see the surfaces for quite possibly the first time in months.

 

Step 2: Sweep away dirt

Once you’ve cleared a sufficient space, it’s time to get scrubbing. First, get rid of any dirt, dust, and rock salt that probably has collected on your floor. You can also tackle dusting off surfaces and getting into the crevices of windows. This part can get pretty gross, but it will be well worth it once your space is sparkling clean again.

 

Step 3: Re-vamp your wardrobe…

This is the fun part! When you’re all done with the actual cleaning process, it’s time to get everything ready for spring. Get back into those clothes you so carefully put away and force yourself to get rid of anything from your winter wardrobe that you didn’t touch all season and anything from last spring that you won’t be wearing this year. I know it can be hard to part with those clothes that you thought about wearing a few times, but it will feel great to just do it.

 

Step 4: …and your surroundings

This step definitely is not necessary, but if you want to get more in the spring mood, switch out a few items in your house. Get rid of those heavy blankets and pine scented candles and add in some bright accent pillows and fresher scents in their place. It isn’t a big change, but it will feel like a totally new environment.

 

Let us know if you think there’s anything essential that needs to be done to get your place spring ready. Good luck on your spring cleaning endeavors, readers!

Save Face: Learn When to Toss Your Makeup

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(Image Credit: Luca Fabbian)

I love trying out new makeup. I can sometimes have three mascaras and ten lipsticks circulating at the same time. There’s no doubt that this makes for a more fun time getting ready, but it can also result in a product I’ve used only once or twice sitting around for a few years because I think that maybe I’ll really need that blue eyeshadow for a future occasion, or even just because I feel like I’m being wasteful if I get rid of it. If you’re anything like me in this regard, you probably have unnecessary clutter around your vanity, but even worse? You’re likely to have expired makeup lying around.

Didn’t know cosmetics have expiration dates? Many people don’t, but unfortunately it’s the truth. If you look on the bottom of a product, often times there will be an indication of how long it is okay to use. For example, you might see “2Y,” meaning two years, or “6M,” indicating that you need to toss it after six months. If your cosmetics don’t have clear expiration dates on them, check out this list as a general guideline to when you need to say goodbye to your beauty products.

Mascara: I’ve always heard that mascara should be used no more than about three months. You don’t want to mess with bacteria that might find its way in, and it tends to get dried out and clumpy after that point, anyway.

Lipstick and lip gloss: From a quick glance at my most-used lip products, the general suggestion seems to be to toss after one year.

Foundation and concealer: These are typically fine to use for a year, but sometimes the advised expiration date is after only six months.

Eyeshadow: Mine range from one to two years, which is pretty painful since I’ll never make it through an entire eyeshadow palette in that time.

Face powders: Like eyeshadows, the rule of thumb is one to two years. This means setting powder, blush, bronzer, and the like all need to be used up in 24 months.

Liners and pommades: Six months to a year is the time frame you should stick to. Not only are they also more prone to bacteria since they are used around the eyes, but they are some of the quickest to dry out and stop working properly.

I know it hurts to throw away that beautiful, ridiculously overpriced Chanel foundation, but expired products just don’t work like they should—I can’t be the only one who’s shaken up a separated foundation in hopes of giving it new life. On a more positive note, this gives you every reason to make a Sephora trip without an ounce of guilt! It’s time to toss that forgotten makeup pile and get shopping.

What’s the Big Deal About…Chipotle?

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(Image Credit: Chipotle)

Chipotle has been getting a lot of heat recently due to E. Coli outbreaks stemming from a few of their locations, but the company has been trying hard to earn the trust of its loyal customers back. For a lucky few, this even meant free burritos if they texted the word “raincheck” on the same day that the brand temporarily shut down to hold national meetings regarding food safety. Despite the recent blips, Chipotle still has the hearts of many. So, what is the big deal about Chipotle, anyway?

Fast but fresh

Fast food restaurants have a bad rap. Most ingredients are frozen, meals are rarely made to order, and have been sitting under heat lamps for sometimes hours by the time your meal is in front of you. Chipotle does it a little differently; you watch them assemble your meal right in front of you and add in the ingredients as you list them off. This way, there’s no mystery as to how long your food has been sitting around and what really went into it.

Fair prices

One of the redeeming qualities of fast food chains is that they’re typically inexpensive, and Chipotle definitely fits that bill. Although it’s true that you’re not going to find an extensive dollar menu or two-for-$2 deals, the prices are more than fair for what you get. I can say with certainty that I’ve never left dissatisfied.

You have control over your meal

There’s a basic menu to guide you, but beyond that, what goes into your meal is up to you. This means you control how mild or spicy your salsa is, what kind of veggies are mixed in, and how healthy (or unhealthy) it all turns out to be. Plus, there are tons of options, so you can switch up your order and try something new every time you go.

Fresh ingredients

Chipotle’s website boasts that their ingredients are farm sourced, non-GMO, and all around fresh. This isn’t something you’re going to find at many self-proclaimed fast food joints. Having the peace of mind that the vegetables you’re eating are farm fresh and the chicken isn’t total mystery meat is pretty comforting.

Their guacamole recipe is online

Yes, we all know the guac costs a little extra, but did you know Chipotle posts their recipe online? Now you’ll never have to serve up some mediocre dip at your parties again. I’d say that’s reason enough to love a restaurant.

So, what do you think the big deal is about Chipotle? Leave a comment below and let us know why you love it!

Why Netflix’s ‘Making a Murderer’ has ensnared a nation

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(Image Credit: Netflix)

Imagine going to prison for 18 years for a crime you didn’t commit. Now, imagine coming out of prison after all that time only to be locked up again. Frustrated yet?

Netflix’s Making a Murderer follows the case of Steven Avery, a man who was wrongfully convicted of a brutal rape and put behind bars for a long 18 years until DNA evidence was brought forward that proved his innocence. After a fleeting celebratory period of freedom, Avery is soon convicted for another rape and, this time, murder of a young woman named Teresa Halbach.

The dramatic tale seems unbelievable, but unfortunately for all involved, it is very real. The series tells the story from every angle. This includes the perspective of Avery and his family who stand behind his innocence, of Avery’s developmentally challenged nephew, Brendan Dassey, who provides a testimony that puts both Avery and himself at the scene of the crime after harsh questioning, but later denies all involvement, and of Avery’s lawyers, Jerry Buting and Dean Strang, who invest all of their time and effort into convincing the jury that the police had to have planted evidence in order for it to be present whatsoever.

We also hear very different stories from the police, who stand by their own innocence and Avery’s undeniable guilt, and from the devastated Halbach family, who desperately wants to see Teresa’s killer behind bars and attain some level of justice.

Viewers develop complicated relationships with each character, making it almost impossible to turn away once you’ve gotten involved. The suspense of watching the case unfold can be painful at times, but each new piece of evidence, whether it be from the prosecution or defense, makes it all the more difficult to stand confidently behind any one unwavering opinion.

The humanity of the show is what will really hook you. If Avery did it, then you want justice for the Halbach family and for a dangerous man to stay behind bars for life… but if he didn’t do it? That means putting a man in prison for life who has already wasted a large chunk of time paying for yet another crime he didn’t commit.

Can the criminal justice system actually be that flawed? Is there really any truth behind “innocent until proven guilty,” or are we presumed guilty upon accusation? Making a Murderer leaves that for you to decide.