Don’t Let Family Bully You

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(Image Credit: Olly)

Imagine this: you and a longtime friend are hanging out, getting coffee at Starbucks because that’s what you do. You are talking, having a great time, when all of a sudden you say something that wasn’t entirely the smartest thing you’ve ever said. It happens; it’s what you do. But your friend? They lash out. They look at you with disgust, they tell you that this is why America is going to hell in a hand basket and put you down. Then, in an instant, they laugh it off as they see your face contort in confusion and hurt. “I’m just joking; gosh can’t you take a joke?” They smirk and move on, as if nothing even happened. Continue reading

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Why Your Mom Will Always Be Your Best Friend

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(Image Credit: Eva_Eva79)

For most girls, there comes a point somewhere on the timeline consisting of loose teeth, training bras, first crushes, high school drama, going away to college, finding our first jobs and everything else in between, where we realize our moms aren’t just our moms, but our friends as well. For me, that came one particular fall afternoon when I was 11 and my mom was driving me to piano practice. We were laughing and singing along to the radio and it struck me how insanely cool it was this lady who I got to call “Mom.” It was like a switch went off knowing that while she was my mom first, she was also my friend. Moms are pretty selfless people with a lot of give and very little take. We should all be appreciative of all the big and little things they do for us (let’s face it, a lot of us would be malfunctioning hot messes if it weren’t for our moms), but we also shouldn’t forget to recognize our moms not just for that title alone, but for the incredible people they are – the types of people we would be lucky to call our friends. In honor of moms everywhere, here are ten reasons why you’ll always be able to call your mom one of your best friends. Continue reading

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An Ode to Little Brothers

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(Image Credit: Ulkas)

When you were young, it’s likely you couldn’t stand them—they were gross, dirty, annoying, and didn’t understand the importance of privacy. If you had a diary, chances are they read it. When you were in 6th grade and met the “love of your life,” you know they listened in on your phone calls, reporting a detailed account of the conversations back to your parents, maybe even fabricating some details. Continue reading

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First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage: The Inevitable Pressures of the Baby Carriage

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(Image Credit: Monkey Business)

We’ve all heard this nursery rhyme: “Johnny and Amy sitting in a tree. K-I-S-S-I-N-G. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” Of course, like most things we said as children, it didn’t really resonate how truthful those words were until we got older and began experiencing the tree sitting, kissing and love. Continue reading

What to do when you don’t get along with your significant other’s family

What to do when you don't get along with your significant other's family

Your relationship with your significant other may be leaving you feeling as though you are on cloud nine. However, there is one major caveat that may hinder or obstruct your relationship from flourishing and moving forward. How do you cope if you do not get along with your significant other’s family? Despite the reason for it – for example, differences in religious beliefs or dissimilarities in personalities  – it is not your responsibility or obligation to “make” someone like you. It is your duty to exercise respect no matter what you may be experiencing. If your bond with your partner is strong enough, nothing should be able to penetrate or break your union. After all, you two are together for a reason. Never lose sight of that. Always reflect upon what brought you together, what you love about one another and any future planning the two of you may look forward to. Continue reading

Diary of a mommy with a sick kid…

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(Image Credit: Flickr User JWJUSAF)

So, for the 2nd time, our daughter Olivia caught a horrible cold for the holidays. Last year she was sick the day after Christmas, this year we started the New Year off pretty crummy. 2 days prior she sounded slightly nasally, but while sitting down for breakfast New Years Day, everything changed and our cozy breakfast went down the tubes. In a time span of about 25 minutes, my husband and I actually watched her enter the throes of her full-blown cold. Her nose started running profusely, eyes watered. Her congestion to the point she had a wet cough. In her short 2 years and 2 months, this kid has never had a cough. She was cranky and clingy and just a mess, and there were a few things (beyond all of the tissues, booger suctioning and lysol-ing ’til the cows came home) that made the following 7 days of icky-ness a bit more bearable for all of us. Continue reading

There is no crying in potty training…

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Image Credit: Ben Husmann

So, we are finally at a point in my daughter’s life where, at a little over 2 years old, she is very close to being ready to tackle potty training. I kinda cant believe we are at this point. I’ve been missing the days of having a little tiny peanut, dependent on everything. Don’t get me wrong, our daughter is very independent in many ways throughout the day and I love the moments, sparingly as they come, where she’s entertaining herself and I don’t have a thing to do and can just have a little me time. But now at this stage, once we conquer this milestone, it’s all big girl underwear and no crib. Yes, our daughter still sleeps in her crib. For as long as she won’t climb out you better believe she’ll be lounging in there! It’s just that all these little changes no longer leave me with a little baby, but a little girl growing up. Continue reading

Your First Time… Cooking a Holiday Dinner!

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Image Credit: Rob Marquardt

When I was growing up, my family didn’t really celebrate holidays. Still, my dad’s company provided all their employees with free turkeys around Thanksgiving, so it’s not like I never knew what it was like to have turkey, stuffing and pumpkin pie. In fact, my mom’s recipe for pumpkin pie is absolutely the best – she just didn’t need it to be Thanksgiving to make it. Continue reading

They say it’s your birthday! Tips for planning a child’s party!

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Our daughter is turning 2 on the 15th, so we’ve been trying to figure out all the makings of a great party for her, and us, that isn’t too overwhelming. At 2, what will she really remember long term? Probably not too much. I come from a large family, so while we don’t invite everyone (2nd and 3rd cousins) we include who we are close with and some extras. My husbands family, aside from his immediate siblings, do not live local. So while we don’t see them too often, any of the kids birthdays or other big events like christenings, etc, are reasons to try to get together to catch up. Once we know exactly who’s coming, we can narrow down how to keep the kiddos and adults happy during the party. We are scaling back this year though to just family. Continue reading

A Penny Saved is a Penny Earned: Otherwise known as that time my daughter ate a penny…

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Our little Bean ate her first inappropriate item. A coin. I got a call on the way home from work on Friday the 30th from my mom. “Patti …..where are you?” “On the turnpike, almost home. (I could hear the worry in my moms voice) Why what’s wrong?” “….Bean (Liv’s nickname) just told me she ate money….”. Oh Boy, At least she’s honest. I couldn’t get home fast enough, not as though I myself was going to get it out. I pictured seeing my daughter crying, doubled over in pain, something would just look wrong. She was fine, happy and playing. I called her doctor, and left a message with the answering service. Of course, this had to happen after hours, at the beginning of the holiday weekend. Awesome! Continue reading

Go Play Your Judge-eridoo Elsewhere the Tantrum is Noisy Enough

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So I had my daughter in for her 21 month check up the other day. The waiting room was packed, which doesn’t happen often. Some older kids with their parents as well as 2 babies younger than Olivia (aka Livy, Liv, Livy beans or the beaner). Most people were understanding of the wait, but some immediately rushed to judge and complain. How dare there be a wait, this never ever happens, let’s see if they’ll just give Judy her shot without an exam, etc. Then, there were the stares that other parents were blatantly giving the parents of the babies when they fussed or made noise. It made me think, are you people kidding me?? We’re in a pediatrician’s office, and last I checked, he caters to infants. Guess what, they cry! We’re not being asked to all spend the night together there. So, that got me thinking, why are people so judgemental, particularly parents? Continue reading

Sun Safety for the Kiddies

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I’ve found myself trying several different sunblocks for my daughter between her first sumer last year and this one so far. Aside from being outside almost daily when the weather is good, we are going away for a week to Lake George, NY. Having access to the lake directly assures that we’ll be spending every day there as long as it’s not raining. I’ve taken into consideration the ones I’ve tried, their pro’s and con’s, and have wanted to share my top picks. Continue reading

Knock knock, who’s there? Mind-ja. Mind-ja who? Mind-ja Business!

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Since my last (and first ever) Mommy piece, we’ve had some interesting days, with some interesting things I could write about. The one that I always come back to and question from time to time is how come people have no filter when it comes to asking you if you are having or want to have more children? Why is it difficult for some to practice the art of minding their own business? I’ve actually been asked this quite a bit recently and all I’m wondering is how many other putz’s are out there asking people this?? Continue reading