Why I’m Not Jealous of Selena Gomez

(Image Credit: Image Group LA/ABC)

(Image Credit: Image Group LA/ABC)

I’m not jealous of Selena Gomez. Not even a little. She may be able to whisper her way through a bop while being rich and attractive, but really, I’m not jealous at all… even though my boyfriend finds her attractive. Yes you read that right, my boyfriend thinks Selena Gomez, a girl that looks absolutely nothing like me, is hot and it doesn’t bother me one bit. But if it did, I wouldn’t be alone.

Lots of people laugh at their partner for looking a little too long at Gomez or other celebrities in a magazine spread, or playfully chide them for body appreciating comments under the guise of just kidding, but secretly many people find themselves feeling a twinge of insecurity when the concept of their better half finding someone else attractive comes up. But there’s no reason to feel this way, and I’m about to tell you why I’m not jealous of Gomez and you don’t need to be either.

First and foremost, the most important beauty lesson anyone can learn is that another person’s beauty does not negate your own. I repeat, someone else being thought of as pretty in no way makes you any less attractive. It doesn’t matter how different that person looks than you. In a world full of so many beautiful things to appreciate, it’s not fair to yourself or your partner to believe there is only one type of pretty out there. Beauty comes in many shapes, sizes and colors and there will be times when your partner notices other beauty in the world.

And so do you. Remember that when you feel that twinge of jealousy start. You know that you’ve checked out at least one of The Avengers or a boybander, or maybe even that guy that lives down the hall, on at least a few occasions. It’s natural to notice pretty things and that’s completely okay. You’re fully aware that you have no intention of ever trying to act on those “wow, look at the hotness” feelings and if you want to be in a healthy relationship you have to trust your partner to have the same casually notice and then move on with the day attitude.

Yes, I brought up trust. You knew it was coming and you’re already ready to argue that you can still feel a bit jealous even if you trust someone. And that’s true, but it’s trust that you can use to put out the jealousy fire. If you can trust that your partner really wants to be with you and only you, and means it when they say you’re gorgeous, remind yourself of that when their eyes start to bulge out of their head during the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. Then go back to my first point and tell yourself someone else being pretty doesn’t mean you’re less. And then remember how you drooled a little at the checkout line yesterday when you saw the cover of Men’s Fitness. Do all of that before you let yourself start to feel bad or judge your partner and you might find that the jealousy is subsiding and it’s really not that big of a deal.

That’s why I’m not jealous of Selena Gomez. We may look totally different and my boyfriend may get that glazed over eye look whenever she’s on television, but I’m okay with it because I trust him and know that not only am I beautiful, but he genuinely thinks so too. And I know that I get the same creepy silent stare whenever I see Jake Gyllenhaal. It happens, so I’m not jealous of Selena Gomez one bit. Well, maybe I’m a little jealous of the being filthy rich part, but that’s not the point. Heck, if she were my type I would probably have a crush on her too.

AshleeeyBash: Niall Horan + Selena Gomez?! #VSFashionShow. Saint West! Oh, my!

(Image Credit: Ashley Bulayo / The Daily Quirk)

(Image Credit: Ashley Bulayo / The Daily Quirk)

It’s December 9 (AKA CHRISTMAS IS REALLY SOON) and THIS is what’s been happening allover my feed lately. We got the whole Niall + Selena rumors, Victoria Secret Fashion Show, Remakes, Saint West AND MORE. Thanks for letting me do this guys. THIS IS AWESOME.

A Breakdown of Taylor Swift’s Squad

(Image Credit: Taylor Swift/Instagram)

(Image Credit: Taylor Swift/Instagram)

Alright, alright, alright. If you follow me on Twitter, you can see just how much I wish I was part of Taylor Swift’s squad. Seriously. Taylor has created a group that defines #SquadGoals. But, to be honest, I can’t even keep up with who’s actually in the squad or who’s just a special guest. That is why this article needs to happen. We’re about to give you a break down on Tay Tay’s squad once and for all. Continue reading

Taylor Swift (Image Credit: ABC)

1,989 Roses and other over the top celebrity romantic gestures!

Taylor Swift (Image Credit: ABC)

Taylor Swift (Image Credit: ABC)

So rumor has it Harry Styles sent out 1,989 roses to Taylor Swift just after the release of her 1989 album. When both fandoms heard this, let’s just say no one handled the news well. BUT! We can thank our pal Ellen Degeneres for getting down to business and finally clearing the air. In the boy band’s latest appearance on the daytime talk show, Styles shot down those rumors saying, “I know about the rumors. I don’t know anything about the roses.” Phew. Everyone can calm down (Especially me. I’m sorry. I’m a huge Harry fan!). Continue reading

Taylor Swift performing at the 2014 AMERICAN MUSIC AWARDS (Image Group LA/ABC)

Top 5 2014 American Music Award Performances!

Taylor Swift performing at the 2014 AMERICAN MUSIC AWARDS (Image Group LA/ABC)

Taylor Swift performing at the 2014 AMERICAN MUSIC AWARDS (Image Group LA/ABC)

Another year, another American Music Awards. The 42nd AMAs took place and while it is a show about awards, you know a lot of people tuned in for the epic performances. This year was no different. The show was jam-packed with performances from Charli XCX to Garth Brooks. While there were so many to watch, there were only a few that stood out to me throughout the whole night. Without further ado and in no particular order, here are five performances that I kind of can’t stop talking about: Continue reading

Ariana Grande (Image Credit: Dave Hogan/MTV 2013/Getty Images for MTV)

The Latest Teen Actresses Turned Singers

Ariana Grande (Image Credit: Dave Hogan/MTV 2013/Getty Images for MTV)

Ariana Grande (Image Credit: Dave Hogan/MTV 2013/Getty Images for MTV)

A lot of the pop singers we know today didn’t always start out that way. Some of these girls tried going down the acting route first. Some started in movies but most of them made their first step into fame through television shows. It seems to have become a pattern for young stars to switch to singing once they’ve become too old to star in anymore “teen” shows. Let’s take a look at just a few of these starlets-turned-singers. Continue reading

Selena Gomez (Image Credit: Lisa Bjorheim)

5 Cancelled Concert Tours That Caused the Biggest Uproars in the Last 5 Years

Selena Gomez (Image Credit: Lisa Bjorheim)

Selena Gomez (Image Credit: Lisa Bjorheim)

You’ve purchased your tickets. You’ve learned all the words to each song. You’re ready for the day you get to check “see your favorite band live” off your bucket list. Then, suddenly, the show you were so anxious to see gets cancelled. This scenario has happened to many, and 2013 marked many upsets for an array of fan bases. Tours were cancelled left and right this year, causing a huge uproar on social media and in the news. However, one cancelled tour of 2010 still remains the winner, topping all four of 2013 combined. Can you guess whose it was? Continue reading

The Good, the Bad, and the Awkward of Celebrity Encounters

Matt Smith (Image Credit: Microsoft Imagine Cup)

Matt Smith (Image Credit: Microsoft Imagine Cup)

In a celebrity-obsessed society, meeting one’s idol is a dream for many. When celebrities interact with their fans, the result can range anywhere from disastrous to downright adorable. Let’s start off discussing the not-so-great encounters and save the best for last, shall we? Continue reading